What Beauty Is…

What Beauty is…

I’ve written a few posts lately concerning my daughters journey to health and transformation:

Transformed: My daughters Journey &

Mission Possible


But while having a conversation with Margaret at soulfood101 , I realized there was much that I didn’t talk about.

I didn’t talk about how she never thought of herself as different or even realized it until she bagan being picked on at school or called names. It was so hurtful to her, and to me.

If I were to be honest with you about that, I’d have to tell you that what I wanted to do was go to their houses and snatch up their moms for raising such little wankers but that would’ve made things worse for her at school. Too, I refused to flinch at their hateful words. I feared that if I let the words impact me, that I’d validate them in her and that was unacceptable. I needed to empower her, not the hurtful words of others.

I remember picking her up after school one day. She was in her early teens. I had a song I wanted her to hear and told her this was my song for her. The first few lines of the chorus played and her heart and spirit dropped. I could hear the woundedness in her voice as she said “Mom!?” I begged her to wait and listen carefully. As she heard the next lines, her entire being lifted and soared! The words clicked into place within her and I knew she had gotten everything that my heart wanted for her.

Joydrop – Beautiful

I wanted her to understand that she needn’t try to conform to others concepts of what beauty is. Beauty is everywhere and in everything. Did a perfect God specifically form and create all things? Does God err? Then she is perfectly and beautifully created by His own design and so are you and I. Never try to change yourself into anothers beauty…be beautiful like you!

If beauty is in the eye of the beholder then the problem is our eyesight. Look closer.

Joydrop – Beautiful

If I was beautiful like you
Oh the things I would do
Those not so blessed would be crying out murder
And I’d just laugh and get away with it too
Like you do

If I was beautiful like you
I would never be at fault
I’d walk in the rain between the rain drops
Bringing traffic to a halt

But that would never be
That will never, never be
Cause I’m not beautiful like you
I’m beautiful like me, I’m beautiful like me

I’d be quick to assume
They’d do anything to please me, why not
I see their reaction when you walk into the room

But that would never be
Never, never, never be
Cause I’m not beautiful like you
I’m beautiful like me, beautiful like me
Beautiful, beautiful like me
Like me, Like me…

If I was beautiful like you
I’d have so many friends
All fighting for my time to be next in line
So if I hurt one, I wouldn’t have to make amends

But that would never be
Never, never, never be
Cause I’m not beautful like you
I’m not beautiful like you
I’m not beautiful like you
I’m beautiful like me
I’m Beautiful like me, beautiful like me
I’m beautiful like me, I’m beautiful like me!


  1. Great post! I was picked on at school as well. One of my favorite scriptures is 1 Samuel 16:7 which says “… For the way man sees is not the way God sees, because mere man sees what appears to the eyes, but Jehovah sees into the heart.” We as a society waste so much time trying to conform to a superficial standard of beauty but God wants us to focus on developing beautiful virtues and personalities. Then we can attain true beauty.

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  2. i envy your daughter for having a mother who’s not only supportive but who also EXPRESSES that support!

    doubt it’s your style of music but I enjoy the song “Wednesday Night” by Dubtribe Sound System. The lyrics for the entire 7 min are “you are beautiful. you are perfect just the way you are.” repeated over & over… first by a man then a woman.

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    • Thank you so much for your kind words. I really just wanted to give her a self assurance, the ability to be loving and kind to herself…these in her lifestyle toolbox that she could use to weather an often brutal world at large as well as having them to give to others. 😊 “Wednesday Night”….that should be our mantra! Thank you so much for sharing it with me.💕


    • It truly does! The journey begins with believing in yourself….I can, I am, I will. 😊 My daughter is now a bodybuilder.com ambassador, finishing her personal trainer certification and was one of the 20 ambassadors out of thousands worldwide who was chosen to attend a bodybuilder.com conference at their headquarters! They are flying her in for it in August. I’m so proud of her being the kind of woman who not only discovered her unique beauty but encourages and empowers others to embrace theirs.

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      • So heartwarming! I think believing in yourself is key and more often than not my little one doesn’t do that. She has overcome so much but still she struggles. Painful to watch and not sure how to help. Then I see this and realize there is hope. Something will turn, it just has to.


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