Life according to Laura: Birthdays

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The 26th was my 60th birthday but I thought I’d share this memory of my birthday past, with you.

Sunday is my Birthday. Though I’ve had so many before, this one feels different. My childhood birthdays seemed to take forever to arrive but when they did, they were joyous! This special day was set apart just for me, decorations, the toy I’d been dreaming of, being sang to in celebration and a candlelit cake with a wish.

As a young adult, birthdays still had a cake, eaten with family before going out to celebrate with friends. Later, birthdays became handmade cards from my children, breakfast in bed and I baked the cake to celebrate with them.

The kids are grown now, far away and busy with their own lives. I’ll get a call or text, no cake with a wish, low carb diet be damned! But, my husband gave me the gift I’d hoped for, an amount of money to spend on myself.

It sounds funny I guess because he’d gladly go shopping and terrify me with his over the top gift giving. I’m simpler than he can fathom and so are the things that bring me joy. I don’t need furs, diamonds and trips to the spa.

I’m easy in a way he doesn’t understand. I love a journal, a special pen to write with, a trip to a bookstore or amazon gift certificate where I can buy a bargain book that I’ll read over and over again. I love bubble bath and lotions, a music box, an hour glass, or a kaleidoscope from a secondhand store. He granted me my wish without limit where I could spend all I wished and took me everywhere I asked to go.

I guess I’m not good at doing me or being a girl. I shopped the clearance and sale aisles which exasperated him. When I purchased curtains for our bedroom instead of buying something for myself at the first store, he threw a weighted blanket into the basket as well. I’d talked about them in the past so….

Day 2, returned weighted (outrageously priced) blanket. It’s not that I didn’t care for it but rather the rediculousness of not being able to wash the darn thing. Nope, hand wash only, no dryer, lay flat to dry. Can’t you just see me hand washing this 20lb blanket in the tub? You can’t wring it out so dragging the now sopping wet thing out of the tub like a dead body to lay it out….where? Where exactly am I to lay out sopped now 40lb blanket to dry? It explicitly says not to hang it! Returned said ridiculous blanket with Mr Pouty Face, purchased new bedding set instead.

Next up, he took me to Marshall’s HomeGoods where I infuriated him further by purchasing a $6 basket to keep the dogs toys in. Honestly, they’re like children, dragging their toys out all over the floor! Also, 2 sets of plain white dishes, one for $15 the other for $13. Mr Sour Puss swears, never again! He’s quite threatening concerning what I’d better get for myself on Amazon. Haha

My Sweet mother sent me a huge plant today. It must be 3ft tall! How blessed am I to still have my mother and my dad still with me. As lovely as the plant is (I have no idea what it is) I find it humorous. People send me plants as jokes. I can and have killed cactus! A mother never gives up hope, I guess.

I am known far and wide for my plant killing capabilities….except for tomatoes. It’s the weirdest thing! Normally if I walk past a plant it’ll lay over and play dead but I planted tomatoes on a lark with my mom during one of her visits. I never watered them nor even went near them again and the darn things would not stop growing! Of course I was on a no carb diet at the time so couldn’t eat them but hand to God, snow on the ground, covered in ice…tomatoes on the vine!

Speaking of my mother….I find birthday rituals to be a curiosity. I’m thinking that it’s all so backwards. Perhaps I should be sending my mother flowers and baking her a cake. I literally did nothing for this honor, in fact I think I slept through most of it while she did all the work! She can send me flowers on mothers day, I did actually make her a mom!

I’m not going to live forever. Each year now seems to end with the question of seeing another, each year closer to that certainty, each flying by. Tomorrows have never been certain, so why do I grow so aware or count the ticking moments? Perhaps, while it’s still day, we should sing the songs within our hearts, dance while we still can and eat another slice of cake.

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  1. We have much in common, Laura (age aside–I’m old enough to have been your babysitter when you were young)! I too love a bargain and try not to buy anything that cannot be laundered in the washer! I enjoy journaling and reading–most books picked up at the library or purchased at Good Will! I do have a question for you. That “special pen to write with?” Have you found a good one that’s a joy to use and not too expensive?! I’d love to hear your recommendations!

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    • Hi Nancy!
      It sounds as though we would be fast friends or possibly cohorts! Lol
      As far as a special pen….if it were a gift given to me, that alone would make it special. I admit that I’m a sentimental fool and I would find it especially thoughtful from someone who recognized my love of writing. If purchasing for myself, that’s another story. In this I admit I’m weird. My thoughts on a special pen is of course frugal as that’s just my nature but also very much about the way a pen feels in my hand. I prefer black ink as it has better staying power and doesn’t fade as quickly as blue. I like a gel ink pen especially because it doesn’t bleed through the page like traditional ink and felts do. I hate that. ๐Ÿ˜„ But also I like a padded grip.
      But it’s for in my hand is everything. I’m weirdly like that with a lot of things. I actually have a favorite fork! The weight, balance and size, in some unexplainable way, seems pleasant to me in a way that an actual book feels in the hand as opposed to a digitally downloaded on. Call me crazy!

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      • You’re not going to believe this: even our choice of PEN is similar! I too have come to appreciate the advantages of black ink in a gel pen with a padded grip! Currently I’m fond of Uni-ball Signo #207. I once owned a glorious pen that glided along the paper. Alas, it was unrefillable!!

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    • Thank you so much, my sweet friend๐Ÿ’•
      This year was an extra special suprise. My daughter planned to take me out to dinner the following Saturday (at a much too expensive restaurant which I fought her on tooth and nail) but when we arrived at the place and was led to the table, to my utter shock, sat not only my daughter, her husband and my grandkids but my son with wife and my granddaughters, my mother, 2 of my brothers with their wives and a niece!!!! Best birthday ever!!!!๐Ÿ’•

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  2. Happy birthday Laura and happy and healthy new year.
    A fascinating read and particularly interested in your low carb diet. I have been following keto diet since March 2020 but tweaking it here and there. I find it seems to suit my body.
    โ€˜While Still day sing songs within our hearts, dance while we still can and eat another slice of cakeโ€™, such positivity.
    Thank you for visiting my blog.
    Take care โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ’๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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  3. He is not upset at what you chose to purchase, he is upset (no…he is MAD) because he knows that if he had purchased those same exact things, wrapped them, and tried to pass them off as your birthday presents, he would have paid hell like nobody’s business.

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    • Untrue. They would’ve been recieved as the thoughtful gifts of someone who truly knows me and the simplicity of things that make me happy.
      Any gift is just that, a gift and the thing cherished, whether big or tiny, is the kindness of being thought of. I’m simply not a big ticket item girl and have never been.
      What upsets him is that his heart wants to spoil me out of the love he feels and yet he knows it’s contrary to my simple, easy and frugal nature.

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      • Yeah. He’s a guy. We do not think like that. There is this “gene” that we men are born with, and it clearly says “do not purchase trinkets or things that plug in for your wife on any special day”. “Special Day” is defined as those that run from January 1st to December 31st on any given year.

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  4. I had read this on your birthday and then got distracted and forgot to comment and wish You a Happy Bday! So sorry! I loved the post and wishing you a wonderful year! Thanks for your posts that make me smile and warm my heart! โค

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  5. Life is a gift, Laura – hope your birthday celebration continues with extra doses of Godโ€™s grace, peace, joy, love & lots of special treats! ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒท๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿ’๐Ÿง๐Ÿน๐Ÿ’œโ˜•๏ธโœจ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฐ๐ŸŽŠ

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  6. The happiest of birthdays to you my dear friend! I do hope it is all you want it to be! ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŽ‚
    So I have a weighted blanket, and in all honesty until you wrote about washing it, I hadn’t even thought about that yet ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฉ
    I also am ridiculed by attempting to keep all of the dogs toys in a basket/container. I thought with Gracie gone that it wouldn’t be a bad. But now I know who the culprit is, and who absolutely likes to take everything out one at a time and leave them everywhere. She is such a stinker. But I will continue to put them away with the hopes that she will get the hint. And last, I LOVE Marshalls. I just found out that they are putting one in Gettysburg (15 mins away) and I am overjoyed. Half of the dust collectors in the house are from there (as are ยฝ the dog toys!)

    In any case, have a great day! Loads of love! โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™‚

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  7. Hi Laura! Love your posts and your blog! I understand about not really wanting anything and certainly not needing anything. Just having my family around makes me happy! Best wishes for the coming year and keep on writing!! Still miss y’all ๐Ÿ˜

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    • Thank you so much Linda! Can’t tell you how much I miss you guys! A year later and I still feel like I’m away from home. I guess home really is where the heart is and mine is still there with you all. ๐Ÿ’•

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  8. Happy Birthday. Your post made me smile, as my husband and I go through the same routine as you. I don’t ask/need for much and he insists on lavishing me. The blanket story made me laugh. Pragmatic, I call it. Hope you let yourself be spoiled and enjoy.

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  9. I have long thought that the wrong person is celebrated on a birthday. It should be the mother and not the child. When my mother was still alive, I did send her flowers on my birthday and she was always thrilled ๐Ÿ’•

    Happy Birthday, Laura, and best wishes for your new year ๐Ÿ™‚

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  10. Happy birthday!!!

    I’m also the type of girl who isn’t impressed by diamonds or expensive gifts. I’d much prefer something that was handmade. Or something small that made someone think of me.

    But I LOVE my birthday! I make a whole deal out of it every year!

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  11. Happy Happy birthday and thank you – this made me laugh (the blanket and your killing plant abilities) as I was reading it while having breakfast so I am starting the day off well. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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  12. Happy birthday Laura. I hear you about killing plants – my mum is miraculously green-fingered and she gives me a cutting saying ‘this one should be fine, very hardy etc etc’ Nope. ๐Ÿ‚

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